This article is all about step 2: observe. If you are psychologically healthy, practice learned optimism, and dont have any of the outstanding issues I have outlined, yes. But for most people, their mentality is pretty corrupted and requires correction, including myself. Its really not as simple as just "observe" when your observations are giving you bad info.
Past Conditioning seems like a big part of my problem. I adapted a lot of heuristics that assume people dislike me and want to avoid me based on experiences in High School that made me keep people at arms length since then. I don’t even have the same problems I used to have in High School so those heuristics are probably wrong or at least need reevaluating.
Man, this a lot of word, yo.
Can I just:
Do > observe result > correct > do?
This article is all about step 2: observe. If you are psychologically healthy, practice learned optimism, and dont have any of the outstanding issues I have outlined, yes. But for most people, their mentality is pretty corrupted and requires correction, including myself. Its really not as simple as just "observe" when your observations are giving you bad info.
Past Conditioning seems like a big part of my problem. I adapted a lot of heuristics that assume people dislike me and want to avoid me based on experiences in High School that made me keep people at arms length since then. I don’t even have the same problems I used to have in High School so those heuristics are probably wrong or at least need reevaluating.