OMEGA Sexual Apathy

The other half of OMEGA sexuality

This is largely unexplored territory so it warrants more investigation. In this article I will be explaining some of the context for my experiences and the wider phenomona that is OMEGA indifference with regards to women. The particular means through which this disposition develops is more speculative but is based on well-founded inferences that I made in researching this topic.

This article is also not about angry OMEGAs who do hate women to extreme degrees. That topic has already been explored in-depth by online incel culture and has a myriad of case studies surrounding infamous figures like Elliot Rodgers and Seung-Hui Cho. Everyone is also much more personally familiar with sexual anxiety and angst rather than disinterest.

While we do not know if Vox recognized the disposition in more specific terms, he did recognize sexual indifference as a key defining factor of the OMEGA profile as per the original SSH definition:

“Omegas are either totally indifferent to women or hate them with a borderline homicidal fury.”

The quality of this indifference is unclear. The general assumption by most to seeing this indifference is usually skepticism. To many, it seems inconceivable on its face that an OMEGA could just not be that interested in women without it being an affect of denial and pent-up frustration or even hidden homosexual proclivities. The GAMMA after all is still full of romantic and sexual longings as well as a love-hate relationship with women despite his low-status. It is hard to imagine then, how being even lower-status does not just amplify this dynamic, but can actually be fundamentally different from it.

The asymmetry is interesting

As an aside, I will from now on be referring to this phenomonon of OMEGA sexual indifference as apathy, due to the more specific definition of indifference that has taken root in this community. Apathy still allows for some sexual and romantic feelings to remain intact while still capturing the genuinely resigned and disinterested attitude.

It has long been assumed that sexuality is all about neurology and hormones. It is treated like your ability to see certain colors, go to sleep or wake up, and breathe without having to try. If there is a problem with your attraction, the cause is assumed to be physical. This view of sexuality as solidly congenital and immutable is simply not supported by recent science, even if that science betrays the “born this way” narrative pushed by the LGBT movement. While currently there is no consensus on how exactly sexuality develops, the scientific community has been forced to admit that environmental factors do play an important, but rather unknown role.

With all of that being said, if there is any profile besides LAMBDA that is going to be getting run through the developmental wringer and therefore be exposed to much higher chances of suffering arrested development, long lasting trauma, and the atrophy of several vital social skills, it is going to be OMEGA. The average male simply has no idea what it is like to be persistently beaten or screamed at by female teachers, family members, or even random strangers. We should also not exclude more peaceful traumas like emotional neglect and divorces from being seen as potentially sexuality disturbing.

If your experience of women growing up was primarily and consistently negative, you are very probably not going to have a coming of age that involves all or even most of the normal sexual maturity milestones, including finding women to be very desireable. The idea that hormones and libido can override years of brain-altering abuse and negativity betrays a misunderstanding of sexuality as an essential human need. Simply surviving is much more important to humans on an instinctual level than sex. If you think male sexual angst is bad, remember that a million times more anxiety has been poured into concern about death. Therefore, the OMEGA who has had very bad experiences with women is going to feel compelled to see them as a threat to his wellbeing and survival and much less sources of personal satisfaction.

Due to the lack of data, I cannot say for sure if the majority of OMEGA sexual apathy is caused by abuse specifically, or something else, however serious abuse appears so often in the life histories of so many OMEGAs that it is the most likely culprit. For a similar comparison, consider that many homosexual men report sexual abuse in their younger years.

The fear of death is more powerful because even within the fear of death there is the fear of never being able to reproduce

My personal negative experiences are more like death by a thousand cuts rather than repeated, hard blows, but the end result of general apathy towards most women is the same. I would describe my sexual disposition as selective aromanticism. Aromanticism is the general lack romantic feelings and selective denotes that those feelings reappear under certain circumstances, but remains largely unstable, inconsistent, and elusive. For example, a woman who I may have had a little bit of romantic feeling for may, on a different day, seem totally emotionally undesireable. As well, just like selective memory disorders can be unintentional, so too is my selective aromanticism. The fact that the romantic attraction is always so short and fleeting, if it appears at all, makes pursuing a relationship feel not worth the effort.

For those unsure of how this relates to sexual attraction itself, Redbeard, a commenter from my article about marriage explained it rather well:

“Coming from a perspective that relates to the author completely, you miss the point. Men like us lack the drive and the care to even bother trying to pursue women in general, due to some childhood trauma or genetic fault, which has created a fear or has short circuited our being into not bothering to try. Because I personally have experienced negative consequences with my interactions with my mother and late sister, the drive within me isn't there, it's like being born with a missing limb. Or having your foreskin taken as an infant, you don't know what it's like to have one. The lust within me is still present and drives me to women somewhat but the foundation isnt there.”

While I don’t want to over-interpret Redbeard’s comment, this description does indeed match my own very closely. Particularly the point about lust, which I assume he identifies with the raw sexual urge. Pure sexual attraction is very physical and devoid of emotion. Its very much like needing to go to the bathroom. You probably enjoy being able to access your bathroom, but you don’t have a love affair with your toilet. Most people don’t notice the sexual urge divorced from the emotional components because the two usually appear simultaneously and feed into and amplify one another. They are two distinct things though, and the desire for sexual release with no emotional stakes is fleeting.

The sign is pointing to everyone else

Ultimately, to help other men understand what this experience is like, I would compare it to sexuality right on the cusp of puberty. Not fully formed, not consistent, and hardly a driving factor in one’s life. In fact, if you generally want to understand OMEGA, it would probably be best to imagine childhood experiences first, adult experiences second.